Blogs and the impact of Christine Zhelsvik (32) is open for a long time to be voluntarily childless when she & # 39 appeared on the red carpet during the Vixen Influencer Awards in January, with a child-magician, and found that she was seven months on the road.
In April, she and Dennis Pope (27) became parents for the first time when a small Falk came into the world. If Dagblade recently visited a little something & # 39; nd of three people in Grünerløkka in Oslo, they were able to discover that they are now going to be a big family & # 39; it – it is something that is very much different from where a year ago, they looked like steam. .
-Dumaetse to go from not wanting children, to the desire of the whole football team? He is the most beautiful among us, and we love it is higher than the sky. Yes, yes, now I want more, says Gelsvik.
– I decided – in any case I did not have children, but then something happened when I saw the result of a pregnancy test in my head. When I was waiting for an answer, I was sure that he wanted, if the test is positive. And if it was actually a positive, internal conflict arose, because a part of me did not want this, but part of me knew that it was still holding me, she says, to be honest.
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Both the Gelsvik notes, it basically was sure that will give fruit. She thought and thought, and went straight to the cellar.
– I got three hours straight, and I immediately thought "damn, is now life is over." What was the main reason that I did not want to have children in the first place – it's just freedom.
– And then I never wanted to share Dennis. I say it is very bad, but I really would not want to share, and wanted it to be us. The fact that the two not be "just", as many believe. The two parts are often more than enough, and cool!
Couples who live together, finally sat down to talk about the huge news, and thought that one day they will get tired of the life they live, tired from all the walking, lack of structure and the lack of routine, and just simply tired of life. calls.
– Get children – this is the biggest problem in life, and the fact that we knew we really wanted to take care of, besides curiosity, really. The fact that both of us will be able to create together, how to change the attitude, as we both work in the parent role, and last but not least, how will the grandmother.
– Just without
Zhelsvik says that his mother always wanted to be a grandmother, but acknowledged that it will not. According to her daughter, she was very boring, and when a blogger started to think about how it will Var & # 39; Yatai and parents PAPE, last but not least, it's worth it.
– And if he will come to the world, there is nothing better, so I am very happy that he is here and would never have been there. But I am absolutely certain that life was good without it, so I do not want to say that children are the meaning of life, and you know what it means to love, before they have children.
Zhelsvik says that it was those comments that she often received before she became a mother, did not know exactly what will be in love with someone before becoming a father.
– But I dare to say that I had a full understanding of what it means to love, before they have children, but loves her child – it's a different love than one who feels spouse or girlfriend or mother.
As already mentioned, for two months the parents of small Falk. In social networks, they have long been aware of a lot of talk about the "police-mother", which Gelsviku already tired.
– I've always been good to reject the shit, but it is obvious that in this situation you are very vulnerable.
– And if you basically feel like you do not go all the way, it does not get better, because people are going to tyknuts and try to correct what I think I am wrong.
They try their best to destroy the negative shit, as they say, and believe that they are well distinguish between security and constructive criticism. The latter is more welcome and something they take.
– It's nice that someone will come up with the meaning, but you're talking about. You do not need to reproach himself in such a way to make you feel stupid and useless. People need to be more friendly and think about these newly baked mother has a lot of hormones. It is quite difficult, as his throw to the role of the mother, you can not imagine anything, and try how it can be best to do what's best for your child – says Gelsvik.
– Scared to each other
PAPE, on the other hand, says that leaves his cohabitation and does not trust the anonymous people on the internet. Nevertheless, he admits that the criticism continues to both.
– But then again on militia Pope did not hear anything, do not have parents who ganebyats each other. So we have to learn from their parents, they do not do. Clearly, if the conditions can be shameful, for the sake of God, but if you do not have anything to do with the way people bring up their children, says Gelsvik.
– Ladies scared each other, look into pop music.
Over the past few weeks, a couple of TV nyanilasya twice and more than happily shared in social networks, they can participate even after their son was born. There are many, who are responsible for it.
– I think it's nice that you can take the party or beer, even if you became parents. The child in the family & # 39; u does not mean that life is over, despite the fact that we often hear … "Just wait, soon you will no longer be a dream," "life is over", it becomes strange but it they know so tiring. " "Now there will be no time for you to be alone."
These comments strongly went to Poppe.
– I was terrified and thought that life is over. Damn, I tried to cut so many trips and parties for boys, before he came, but it's far from over, he says.
They both say that it depends on how to facilitate and progress, and recognize that they have in the house a new boss, and that most of the things happening on the territory of Falk. But life goes on.
– He has a lot to participate, so we did not feel that life is terminated for this reason. I would like to see you are more focused on the positive and what is actually possible to live relatively the same as before you had children, if that's what you want. Now we are very fortunate that I have a nice and quiet little boy, except that we were so privileged that we are both home to 100%. I know that it can be very difficult for parents. have children with colic and had not slept in two months – it is clear that with you doing something. Now we were the parents of just over 2 months, and a lot can be changed. But still lives with the children was quite beautiful and without problems.
– Therefore, a little more attention on the fact that life does not have to be finished, but it really is very nice.
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